Jewelry to Symbolize the Different Stages of Relationships

Congratulations!

You made a great connection with someone who seems to have a lot in common with you!

Or do they?

Well, that still remains to be seen, so what can you do to show that the relationship seems to be going in a positive direction?

Do you want to give a symbol of your affection, while not making it look like you are moving too fast…because you really don’t want to move fast anyway right?

What kind of jewelry is suitable for symbolizing the different stages of the relationship, and yet, does not assume anything more than what you want it to?

In this post, we are going to discuss the different stages of relationships and whether or not you “should” give a gift of fine jewelry, or something else instead, depending on what you are discovering along the way.

We will talk about what certain types of jewelry “speaks” to the giftee so as not to make the wrong impression.

How To Know The Right Time to Buy Jewelry

One would suppose that a relationship is moving along when a partner feels secure enough in it to start thinking about buying gifts for the other.

At first, a gift does not have to necessarily be a “thing”, it could be an act of kindness or indulgence that only you would know the other person wants.

But once your relationship has crossed over into the threshold that there is a strong desire to gift your beloved with something that will last longer than a dinner out, a movie or a weekend trip, it is time to take a trip to your local jewelry store because it will now seem like an exciting thing to do, rather than a scary thing.

You know that you are evolving when you are comfortable stepping into a jewelry store and asking the salesperson for some advice on what to get without a dreaded feeling in the pit of your stomach.

Just be honest and let them know the nature of the relationship at present.

They will absolutely understand and will direct you to items that will represent the stage that you are in rather than suggesting that you buy out of your boundaries.

Jewelry For Each Stage of a Relationship

“They” say that there are four types of rings that mark a relationship.

We say there are more marks than that.

Here are some of the milestones that you may want to consider, along with the four traditional stages:

Fun Jewelry For “Deeper Friendship” Stage

We do not want to jump straight into thinking that a “promise ring” is the only way to let your partner know that you are taking a dive into the next level of your relationship.

So do not be afraid to go to a jewelry store and tell them that you’d like to see:

1. A pair of earrings made in sterling silver
2. A bracelet made in sterling silver
3. An ankle bracelet made in sterling silver
4. Toe rings made in sterling silver
5. A necklace made in sterling silver
6. A sterling silver bookmark
7. A sterling silver wine bottle opener

Get the drift?

Jewelry can be fun and relatively inexpensive, yet if you buy it from a local jewelry store, the styles and packaging alone makes a bigger statement than if you bought it from a Walmart.

None of these gifts screams of a “PROMISE”.

They do not break the bank either.

If you find that your relationship takes a different or unexpected turn and becomes delegated forever to the “friendship zone” or “a bullet that just missed me” level, you will not feel as though you made a fool out of yourself by throwing your heart, or wallet, out on the table too early.

Jewelry For Serious and “Exclusive” Stage

We do not think this should entail the “promise ring” yet either.

This stage is now at the point in the relationship where you reveal things about yourself that you are embarrassed about or failures that you have hidden.

It is this stage that you are testing the waters much deeper than just sticking your toes in.

You are willing to take a chance to reveal the worst about yourself rather than just the best.

This calls for a different type of jewelry gift if your partner is still daring to stick around:

1. 14k gold earrings with or without semi precious gemstones (no diamonds)
2. 14k necklace (but not a heart shape)
3. 14k chain for ankle or wrist
4. Strand of freshwater pearls with 14k clasp
5. A monogrammed locket

These gifts are more expensive than sterling silver, but they still allow you the room to feel as if you are not so invested in the relationship that you would regret the expense should it not work out.

Keep the gold on the lighter weight side so that it does not become a huge cost.

Promise Ring Stage

Okay. Now we can get to the promise ring stage.

This symbolizes that the two of you are heading towards building a life together…but there are some unfinished issues that need to be dealt with that you both know will take some time.

You know that you can easily picture yourselves being together for the rest of your lives, but also are aware that life has a way of throwing monkey wrenches into the mix.

This stage is a little awkward because until your future outlook together can be solidified, whether or not it is personal goals or financial, then the promise ring symbolizes “Let’s work towards that goal together”.

1. A promise ring can have a small diamond or cluster of diamonds
2. A promise ring can have just about any precious gemstone
3. A promise ring should not look like an engagement ring, nor cost anywhere near as much
4. A promise ring should look good on the right hand where it will end up if the engagement ring stage happens.

Jewelry For The Engagement Stage

This is the stage that symbolizes in a big way, more than a simple hope and promise.

You are publicly making a commitment to each other for building a permanent life together, and the ring is a symbol of this huge step.

The engagement ring is the ring that is given on “bended knee” and when accepted, it is as good as a done deal.

1. An engagement ring should be well thought out in terms of style and practicality
2. This ring is not a “fun” ring, but is one that will be worn for a lifetime
3. Do not buy an engagement ring until you know your beloved’s personal taste, or are at least willing take them to browse with you
4. An engagement ring would be chosen the same way that the both of you would choose a house to live in…together. There will be other occasions to buy jewelry that you can surprise with.

Jewelry For The Wedding Stage

This is the ring that will be added on the wedding day. It is for both the bride and the groom to decide if either of you want an additional wedding band, or if the engagement ring will suffice.

If a wedding band is chosen for either, then you should both have an opinion on whether or not you want to try to match or keep your own individual tastes.

1. Wedding rings can be simple solid gold or platinum bands
2. It can have two different colors of gold or a mix of platinum and gold
3. It can have diamonds or other precious gemstones that will enhance the main engagement ring
4. It can be engraved with a message or date

Jewelry For The Anniversary Stage

This stage marks the years that the relationship has weathered…er, we mean lasted to date.

Some people want to symbolize five years, ten or twenty or fifty.

It is all up to each couple, but at some point a new ring to wear on the right hand or even an additional ring to wear with the engagement and wedding ring is to be considered.

Most women who are hankering for a new sparkly will want:

1. A modern diamond 3 stone or 5 stone band
2. An antique filigree diamond band
3. A really nice sapphire, ruby or emeraldring or band
4. A departure from rings to a diamond bracelet, earrings, or necklace

A spouse who feels as though they have “earned” a new expensive piece of jewelry may want to pick it out for themselves.

By the time these anniversary stages come about, they are not going to be bashful about what they prefer, they will be more comfortable with their finances, and will take detours to scout around in jewelry stores by themselves to take pictures of items or even put them on hold.

Jewelry For The Divorce or Widow Stage

Yep.

Women do want jewelry after a divorce, and they also want something new after their spouses have passed to fill up the ring finger that eventually feels naked and empty.

Typically, a woman who finds herself alone will go for rings that do not look anything like engagement or wedding rings, but that symbolize freedom or a new life of adventure.

Here are a few of the types of things that a widowed or divorced woman will buy:

1. Giant gaudy rings
2. Anything that they felt they should have had
3. Bracelets that shock and awe
4. Necklaces that WOW
5. Earrings that scream “This is the REAL me”!

These women often go into jewelry stores with either a lot of money to spend or a lot of jewelry that they were given throughout the years that they now despise and want to get rid of.

They will instantly be able to pick out exactly what they want within 30 seconds, and are ready to wheel and deal to symbolize their new future self.

Final Thoughts

The symbols of a relationship are very personal regardless of which stage it is in because jewelry represents meaning to each individual.

Jewelry has a way of revealing how much that you know about the person you buy it for and also reveals the effort that you are willing to go to make an occasion special.

So go and check out our store for the best jewelry in your stage of relationship!